As the holidays approach, many single individuals experience heightened anxiety. Concerns about facing questions and judgments regarding their relationship status from family and friends, coupled with the apprehension of attending parties alone, often make the holiday season feel daunting. Single people frequently find themselves having to justify their single status at family gatherings or endure events surrounded by couples. Being single during November and December can feel challenging.
The holidays seem to amplify societal pressures. The prevailing notion that being single during the holidays is inherently negative intensifies feelings of loneliness. This isn’t necessarily because of any inherent difference in being single during this time, but because of the expectation that the holidays should be celebrated romantically or with family. This external pressure can become internalized.
However, you don’t have to endure a miserable holiday season. In fact, you can celebrate the season on your own terms and make it enjoyable.
For example, solo or group travel offers a fantastic way to sidestep traditional holiday events and provide something positive to anticipate and discuss when questioned about holiday plans. Instead of fielding questions about romantic partners, you can share your travel adventures, whether domestic or international.
Solo travel, appealing for its freedom, allows you to pursue bucket-list destinations. Choose a location that brings you joy, broadens your horizons, provides relaxation, or offers a challenge.
If travel isn’t feasible, create enjoyable holiday memories at home. If you live in your hometown and anticipate many visitors, consider hosting a holiday party. This allows you to control the festive atmosphere or find a festive location for a gathering. Out-of-town friends will appreciate the social engagement, and you’ll enjoy quality time with everyone.
If your city empties during the holidays, use your free time to explore local cultural attractions typically too crowded for residents. Become a tourist, visiting museums, trying new restaurants, and enjoying bookstores, coffee shops, and parks. Enjoy a night out at a restaurant and movie. You can even relish your regular routines without the usual holiday crowds. While out and about, you might even meet new people and enjoy the freedom of your own schedule.
If you feel too exhausted to plan, that’s perfectly acceptable! Staying home, relaxing, watching holiday movies, and spending time with roommates, friends, or pets are wonderful ways to spend the holidays. Politely decline overwhelming invitations. If a full week with family feels excessive, shorten your visit.
Prioritize your preferences. Some may prefer to ignore the holiday frenzy, while others create their own traditions. Regardless of location, numerous holiday activities exist. Explore holiday markets and craft fairs, special events at restaurants and bars, and holiday-themed shows and performances. You could even enjoy a classic holiday film at the cinema.
It’s easy to get caught up in the holiday whirlwind and forget the importance of setting boundaries regarding time, company, and activities. Distinguish between activities you genuinely enjoy and those driven by social obligation or draining your energy. This is a valuable practice to begin during the holidays, and continue afterwards. If holiday dinners with friends and their partners leave you feeling excluded, opt out this year or limit your attendance to a shorter period. For declined invitations, suggest alternative activities that promote inclusivity and fun.
The holidays needn’t be a stressful, lonely time. You don’t need a partner to enjoy yourself. Remember that the holiday season isn’t inherently about couples. You can celebrate on your terms, create your traditions, and embrace the season as a happy single person.